5. What Is The Problem?

Session five proposes creative and effective ways for parents to understand how to identify and acknowledge an issue they are facing with their children, how to examine different potential solutions, learn to determine who the problem really belongs to, and then find effective ways to express feelings to your child, as you continue to build a well-functioning family unit.

What's Inside Your Child's Head?

2.5.1 INTRODUCTION

How Ready Are We For Parenting?

Points to Remember
What is Effective Communication?

How and Why Do We Build Respect?

What Do You Do with Feelings?

Learning to Make Wise Decisions

2.5.2 A FEW WORDS ABOUT ADVICE

Difficulties with Giving Advice
Teaching Wise Decision-Making
Who Owns the Problem?
Giving Time and Vulnerability To Children

2.5.3 NURTURING PROBLEM-OWNERSHIP

Thoughtfully Seek the Best Timing
Helping the Child with His/Her Problem-Ownership
Seeking Balance for your Child

2.5.4 SUBTLE INFLUENCES ON YOUR CHILD

Parental Modelling
Building Accountability
Synchronizing the Inside and Outside
Dad’s Influence as a Hero
Using the Stomach-Gate

2.5.5 ‘I’ MESSAGES VS. ‘YOU’ MESSAGES

Defining a ‘You’ Message
The Advantages of ‘I’ Messages
‘I’ Messages have Three Parts
Points to Remember

6. How to Be Responsible

This session suggests how to identify various commonly employed parental methods – authoritarian, permissive, and responsible. He then examines the effects of using reward and punishment or consequences on your child.

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2.6.1 REVIEW AND FRIENDSHIP BUILDING

Introduction
The Friendship Factor
Giving Security to our Children
Our Child – A Follower or Leader?

2.6.2 LEARNING TO BECOME

Learning by Doing
Consistent, Clear Expectations
The Learning Process
Children’s Needs for Choices
Fitting In to Belong
Choices and Consequences

2.6.3 CONSEQUENTIAL LEARNING

Children’s Needs for Choices
Fitting In to Belong
Choices and Consequences

2.6.4 DISCIPLINE; NOT PUNISHMENT

Logical Consequences
Parent Problems
Helping my Child Build Relationships

2.6.5 MODELING AND TEACHING TOWARDS MATURITY

When Children Don’t Co-operate
Modeling and Building
Four Levels of Maturity

7. How to Avoid Being Manipulated

This next lesson considers methods for parents to become pro-active instead of reactive and, more importantly, choose the correct action, as they seek to build a healthy family unit.

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2.7.1 HELPING CHILDREN BECOME RESPONSIBLE ADULTS

Creative Discipline
The Value of Unity
Points to Remember

2.7.2 DISCIPLINE; NOT PUNISHMENT

Punishment Equals Vengeance
Consequences
Guidance and Support

2.7.3 LOGICAL CONSEQUENCES

Actions: Not Reactions
Coping Skills

2.7.4 PAY - OFFS

Application
Acting Instead Of Reacting

2.7.5 DEALING WITH DAILY IRRITATIONS

Attacking the Problem

8. Finding Solutions to Problems

Do you struggle with “finding solutions to problems” in your home? Most of us do. Al Friesen suggests how to learn to understand, how to be in charge in a non-threatening way, and learn to work together as you continue to build a well-functioning family unit.

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